I begin my day with coffee and a smile, prepping myself to be among people who can bring out the "active shooter" in most of us. I learn something every day. I made a resolution many years ago to not make any resolutions. It has worked well. One person's crazy is another person's sane so I have seriously trimmed my judging and bide my time by working on me. I love this comic strip though. It's quite funny!
Like most everyone who is honest and admits it, I judge too. But, I think the key to not letting judgement be detrimental to your character is how you act on that judgement and whether or not you're willing to reevaluate your initial assessment. I will look at someone and perhaps make a snap judgement of them, but my opinion of the person will not be wholly formed. In other words, I leave room, always, for the possibility I may be totally erroneous in my thinking. And if I have the opportunity to acquire a bit more insight into the individual's character, I will suspend my judgement until I get to know them better, should the opportunity arise.
This doesn't mean that I won't ultimately give the person a thumbs down, that may happen; but that would be a decision based on a perceived mutual lack of benefit should anything more than an acquaintenceship appear to be a possibility. I.e., I can overlook certain things in people if I think we can have a meaningful relationship, so to speak (not necessarily romantic).
So, judge away; just don't let it get in the way of future happiness of the kind good friendships can bring. And, I have probably done that myself, I will admit. But, I try to stay open and accepting, as difficult as it can be sometimes.
We have to continually make judgments to live a happy and successful life. Things like: can I trust this person to not gossip if I share personal information. Should I enter a business partnership with this person? Is this person too stupid to be my babysitter.
As someone who has been accused over & over (by mindless souls if you ask me (I'm being nice here!)), I like to refer to myself as a "Critical Thinker" rather than the "Judgemental Asshole" that others call me (if someone is judging me to be a Judgemental Asshole, wouldn't that then make them ......Judgemental?)
I love this one. If it's okay with you I would like to share it with friends. Though I would have to disagree with the sentiments of some of those who have already commented. Sometimes I think you have to be judgmental. As someone said, there is no point being so open-minded that your brains fall out.
I just reread "Illusions, tale of a reluctant messiah" by Richard Bach, for the first time since shucking my religion... I used to think it was a great book... now, it's just ... hokie. It was still sort of fun, but full of woo.
I realize that from the otherside of the dogma curtain it seemed progressive, rebellious even; we can all be gods! IT was a step away from the fundie trough though, and got me open to the idea that there are other ways of looking at things, so I guess that's something.
At the time I guess I was more the person in orange... now, I'm definitely the green one!