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Don’t set the bar too high πŸ˜‰

AMGT 8 Jan 1
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We could just say that people who don't judge are people devoid of perspective and experience. ...rather like the gullible rubes the partisan attorneys try to pick for jury trials. πŸ˜‰

Never quite seen it that way, but it makes sense, lol

Ah, shame on me- ' I judge', and to myself I give the harshest review. That tends to be very depressing. But ironically I haven't been insightful enough. In my old age, I am getting a wee bit smarter; I would need to be. When buying a car, I would rather deal with 'Nasty Fred', "What are you, stupid? This is a pile of junk." as opposed to (Very) 'Friendly George', who is thinking, "My first sucker of the day.".

@MissKathleen, are judging and accepting reality necessarily different? I Don't think they are. We can judge and be off-base, sure. But we can also be perceptive and realistic and judge someone else's viewpoint precisely because it is not reality-based.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, to be sure. They are NOT entitled to respect for that opinion automatically. Opinions are most assuredly not all equally valid--a wishful thinking claim I have seen made countless times by college students in "research" papers by God-fearin' Southern college students who, I kid you not, keep citing the Bible as a factual reference source in their papers. Those opinions based in fantasy and wishful thinking absolutely deserve to be called out for their lack of factual support.

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A republican walks into a bar "OUCH"
A liberal walks into a bar I will have a scotch please

EMC2 Level 8 Feb 5, 2018
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Gwyneth paltrows entire inner circle hahahaha

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Please don't set the bar too high. When I fall off I'll have further to go.

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Cute.

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I only judge if you make a typo and when I look at the keyboard the letters aren't next to each other. Then I so judge you.

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We try not to be non-judgemental don't we? It isn't easy. lol.

Me judgemental? Surely you jest?

being judgemental is self-preservation.

@LeighShelton i do not try to be non-judgemental...ever!

it's natural

Hi. It's winter time here in the great, frozen north. Yesterday, I walked into a pub; there was a guy with a shirt with no sleeves. I could see that he wasn't too bright, BUT, his skin, his shirt, his pneumonia- and none of my business!

@LeighShelton I'M having a wowser of a judgemental day, hating on every rotten thing, thats going on in my housing scheme, don't know how to cope with myself ,so angry and twisted!

when that happens to me I step back and look with new eyes another time @jacpod. I don't care about anything people do that doesn't hurt anyone else. it is up to them but of course, I think about these things as we all do. asking my opinion is another thing, however.

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I begin my day with coffee and a smile, prepping myself to be among people who can bring out the "active shooter" in most of us. I learn something every day. I made a resolution many years ago to not make any resolutions. It has worked well. One person's crazy is another person's sane so I have seriously trimmed my judging and bide my time by working on me. I love this comic strip though. It's quite funny!

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Like most everyone who is honest and admits it, I judge too. But, I think the key to not letting judgement be detrimental to your character is how you act on that judgement and whether or not you're willing to reevaluate your initial assessment. I will look at someone and perhaps make a snap judgement of them, but my opinion of the person will not be wholly formed. In other words, I leave room, always, for the possibility I may be totally erroneous in my thinking. And if I have the opportunity to acquire a bit more insight into the individual's character, I will suspend my judgement until I get to know them better, should the opportunity arise.

This doesn't mean that I won't ultimately give the person a thumbs down, that may happen; but that would be a decision based on a perceived mutual lack of benefit should anything more than an acquaintenceship appear to be a possibility. I.e., I can overlook certain things in people if I think we can have a meaningful relationship, so to speak (not necessarily romantic).

So, judge away; just don't let it get in the way of future happiness of the kind good friendships can bring. And, I have probably done that myself, I will admit. But, I try to stay open and accepting, as difficult as it can be sometimes.

Well said

It was a joke, a funny!!! ?

@KevinTwining I know. I probably just had a bunch of extra words in my head that I needed to expunge that night. Don't mind me, I ramble on sometimes.

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Everyone is judgemental. We try not to be but we are. I can't see reasons that those around me do such stupid things and think nothing of it. Half of my old friends are morons.

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Have you seen the cyanide and happiness show on youtube? Foamy the squirrel/Ill will press is pretty good too.

Wow someone remembers Foamy? I have the CD - original run.

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Hahaha!

d_day Level 7 Jan 1, 2018
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Awww.... simple yet true.

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We have to continually make judgments to live a happy and successful life. Things like: can I trust this person to not gossip if I share personal information. Should I enter a business partnership with this person? Is this person too stupid to be my babysitter.

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As someone who has been accused over & over (by mindless souls if you ask me (I'm being nice here!)), I like to refer to myself as a "Critical Thinker" rather than the "Judgemental Asshole" that others call me (if someone is judging me to be a Judgemental Asshole, wouldn't that then make them ......Judgemental?)

twill Level 7 Apr 16, 2018

I agree, I thought the theme was to have appropriate expectations.

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Why worry about what other people think? They don't live my life, they don't walk in my shoes, nor do I theirs. But I do love the cartoon, it does speak to the truth of the human condition.

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I never set the bar so high that l can't look down and see the top of it.

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I love this one. If it's okay with you I would like to share it with friends. Though I would have to disagree with the sentiments of some of those who have already commented. Sometimes I think you have to be judgmental. As someone said, there is no point being so open-minded that your brains fall out.

There is a distinction between making a reasoned judgment and being emotionally judgmental
I prefer the former

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Cyanide and happiness is the best.

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Haha! Good one!

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Ha ha ha.

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So the answer to happiness is to lower your standards? I hear that's how Casanova became Casanova--"hold on, just one more pint of ale." One more pint later--"yep, she'll do just fine!"

Lets raise our glasses and lower our expectations.

@EricJones the girls all get prettier at closing time

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I love their Joking Hazard game. It's great.

Keita Level 5 June 25, 2018
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I just reread "Illusions, tale of a reluctant messiah" by Richard Bach, for the first time since shucking my religion... I used to think it was a great book... now, it's just ... hokie. It was still sort of fun, but full of woo.

I realize that from the otherside of the dogma curtain it seemed progressive, rebellious even; we can all be gods! IT was a step away from the fundie trough though, and got me open to the idea that there are other ways of looking at things, so I guess that's something.

At the time I guess I was more the person in orange... now, I'm definitely the green one! πŸ™‚

@AMGT Yes. I liked it too. Now this one just felt a bit too... Chopra. πŸ™‚ I still liked reading it, just not as much. Kinda like watching "Up in Smoke" years after I quit smoking pot. hahaha

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