So back in May of 2018 of this year, I signed up for the CrossFit class and I’ve noticed two particular women in the gym who appears to be close buddies and they are both very fit/runners. So ever since I’ve been going to the gym everyday for these last 7 moths, I’ve noticed I will get dirty looks from from one of the women out of the two all the time and it’s usually a stink eye look. So recently the instructor told the class to do stretches for the cool down after the workout. One of the women of the two friends made a snarky comment saying,” Stretching is for losers.” I told people about it and the remarks and how I get the stink eye looks and they told me that it’s peobably because I don’t open up to them because shortly after the ordeal of them making that comment, they tried to invite me over to workout with them but I pretended like I didn’t hear them. Am I wrong to have my guard up against those two after receiving these types of treatments? I’m just there at the gym strictly for the sake of my health, nothing more. Let me know what you guys think and if I may be overreacting.
Just ignore them. Obviously, they are still stuck stuck in middle school. "Stretching is for losers"? That is such an immature and ignorant thing to say. lol. If they knew fitness, they would know that stretching is important for everyone regardless of fitness level. Some people are just bitter.
I think you are wise not to become too involved. Honestly, it sounds like high school mean girls. I would just be polite, concentrate on the workout and go about my business. It's weird when strangers want you to "open up" to them. I wouldn't give them the ammunition they seem to be looking for.
I have always trusted my instincts. I have only been at my new job a few months and have identified similar groups. A few times, I have overheard their conversations and avoid those same people. I may not fit in. I don't care. I am there to earn a living. If they choose to have their cliques and gossip, go for it, but don't expect me to add to the gossip. I rather like being an unknown amongst people like that.
I'd go with your instinct and not bother with them. They don't sound too nice but then there are a number of possibilities why they could be like that and most of them will be issues that they have or are coping with in thier lives. I also suspect that one is leading and the other following that lead.
It's commendable that you care enough to post in this forum and you could tackle them head on but how much time and energy do you have to do this.
I personally would be the sort of person to acknowledge them on first sight each session but not engage them in conversation, thereby not showing myself to be sniffy. My red lines would be if I felt I was being insulted or felt someone else was being intimidated or insulted. In those circumstances I'd challenge them.
Fuck 'em - they are 'psychic vampires' in the Anton Lavey language. You don't need their approval or 'friendship'. They sound like a pair of moronic jealous bitches. Ooops, was that judgemental. Tough titties!!! Be good to yourself lovely. There are plenty of people who will want to take a swing in this world, so don't beat yourself up, 'cos otherwise those idiots will have nothing to do, and you deserve happiness. Be yourself and be happy with that.
why would you have to pretend anything? just say "no thank you." that being said, "stretching is for losers" is not just snarky, it's dead wrong. meanwhile, if you don't go to the gym to pal around with snobs, you don't have to pal around with snobs (or anyone else). i do have a question. when you say you told people about it: what people? other people at the gym? the instructor who was dissed by one of the stinkeyes? people you know who don't go to the gym? it makes a difference because it provides context for their responses.
The comment about stretching could have been an inside joke between them. Sometimes close friends make weird comments to each other or quote things and no one around them gets the joke.
I have no idea about the stink eye. Some people look snarky when they are in thought... resting bitch face etc.
Or maybe they are just not very nice and you should continue to ignore them. Just throwing a few ideas out there. I've mistaken looks and comments as having something to do with me and later found out it was an inside thing between the people.
RBF (Resting B*&%# Face) it's a real thing. Maybe she's just ugly. You're passing up an opportunity to hang out with the girl that will occupy the weird guy who smells like cabbage so you can get his hot friend's phone number. It's a BFF missed opportunity. #sad