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Am I wrong to have my guard up over this?

So back in May of 2018 of this year, I signed up for the CrossFit class and I’ve noticed two particular women in the gym who appears to be close buddies and they are both very fit/runners. So ever since I’ve been going to the gym everyday for these last 7 moths, I’ve noticed I will get dirty looks from from one of the women out of the two all the time and it’s usually a stink eye look. So recently the instructor told the class to do stretches for the cool down after the workout. One of the women of the two friends made a snarky comment saying,” Stretching is for losers.” I told people about it and the remarks and how I get the stink eye looks and they told me that it’s peobably because I don’t open up to them because shortly after the ordeal of them making that comment, they tried to invite me over to workout with them but I pretended like I didn’t hear them. Am I wrong to have my guard up against those two after receiving these types of treatments? I’m just there at the gym strictly for the sake of my health, nothing more. Let me know what you guys think and if I may be overreacting.

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Just ignore them. Obviously, they are still stuck stuck in middle school. "Stretching is for losers"? That is such an immature and ignorant thing to say. lol. If they knew fitness, they would know that stretching is important for everyone regardless of fitness level. Some people are just bitter.

Fairiedust Level 4 Dec 11, 2018
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Exactly!

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I think you are wise not to become too involved. Honestly, it sounds like high school mean girls. I would just be polite, concentrate on the workout and go about my business. It's weird when strangers want you to "open up" to them. I wouldn't give them the ammunition they seem to be looking for.

ohnoudun Level 5 Dec 10, 2018
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I have always trusted my instincts. I have only been at my new job a few months and have identified similar groups. A few times, I have overheard their conversations and avoid those same people. I may not fit in. I don't care. I am there to earn a living. If they choose to have their cliques and gossip, go for it, but don't expect me to add to the gossip. I rather like being an unknown amongst people like that.

Holysocks Level 7 Dec 10, 2018
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Oh good, it's 7th grade all over again in your local gym, where you're suppose to be doing something healthy for yourself.

Ignore them!!! Workout...it's all about you when you're at the gym.

linxminx Level 6 Dec 10, 2018
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Stink eye is a real thing... and I would totally trust your instincts surrounding it.

PalacinkyPDX Level 8 Dec 10, 2018
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I don't talk at the gym, I am here to improve myself.
Nor do I waste time worrying/thinking/conjecturing what others are doing/thinking...who cares?
Find something else to think about, wear headphones, listen to music or audio books

AnneWimsey Level 8 Dec 10, 2018
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Love your boldness!!!! At the end of the day, who really does care? Good point!!! Go to the gym, improve your health for the sake of your health, leave then get on with life!

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Crossfit is a cult. Get out while you can! 😆

Amzungu2 Level 7 Dec 10, 2018
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Lmfao the hell I do let those idiots spoil my chances of getting healthy!!!

@EmeraldJewel Nope. You can stay and ignore them (and burpee those bitches under the table) or you could try a different (non crossfit cult) class. 😊

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I'd go with your instinct and not bother with them. They don't sound too nice but then there are a number of possibilities why they could be like that and most of them will be issues that they have or are coping with in thier lives. I also suspect that one is leading and the other following that lead.
It's commendable that you care enough to post in this forum and you could tackle them head on but how much time and energy do you have to do this.
I personally would be the sort of person to acknowledge them on first sight each session but not engage them in conversation, thereby not showing myself to be sniffy. My red lines would be if I felt I was being insulted or felt someone else was being intimidated or insulted. In those circumstances I'd challenge them.

tartanathiest Level 5 Dec 13, 2018
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Not wrong at all. They sound like people to avoid at all costs.

Deb57 Level 7 Dec 11, 2018
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This sounds like high school shit. You want to be involved in high school shit? Pay it no mind, man.

maturin1919 Level 8 Dec 10, 2018
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Fuck 'em - they are 'psychic vampires' in the Anton Lavey language. You don't need their approval or 'friendship'. They sound like a pair of moronic jealous bitches. Ooops, was that judgemental. Tough titties!!! Be good to yourself lovely. There are plenty of people who will want to take a swing in this world, so don't beat yourself up, 'cos otherwise those idiots will have nothing to do, and you deserve happiness. Be yourself and be happy with that.

BratPrince69 Level 3 Dec 11, 2018
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Thank you so much! I do distance myself from them cause I just never really trusted them, anyhow. I just had to make sure it wasn’t just me imaging things lol. I never wanted to be their friends. Love your response.

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They clearly suffer from having disordered personalities. I would have nothing to do with them. I also commend @AnneWimsey's comment to you.

irascible Level 8 Dec 11, 2018
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why would you have to pretend anything? just say "no thank you." that being said, "stretching is for losers" is not just snarky, it's dead wrong. meanwhile, if you don't go to the gym to pal around with snobs, you don't have to pal around with snobs (or anyone else). i do have a question. when you say you told people about it: what people? other people at the gym? the instructor who was dissed by one of the stinkeyes? people you know who don't go to the gym? it makes a difference because it provides context for their responses.

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genessa Level 8 Dec 10, 2018
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Lmfao! I love these replies from open minded people!!!

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The comment about stretching could have been an inside joke between them. Sometimes close friends make weird comments to each other or quote things and no one around them gets the joke.

I have no idea about the stink eye. Some people look snarky when they are in thought... resting bitch face etc.

Or maybe they are just not very nice and you should continue to ignore them. Just throwing a few ideas out there. I've mistaken looks and comments as having something to do with me and later found out it was an inside thing between the people.

KissedbySun Level 7 Dec 10, 2018
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I think you can definitely do without such small-minded people in your life!

The-Krzyz Level 6 Dec 10, 2018
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They have a poor attitude in life. So watch them.

freedom41 Level 7 Dec 10, 2018
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I don't think you're wrong. I'd have my guard up, too.

bingst Level 8 Dec 10, 2018
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I'd say forget them but then that's how I live daily so it's really up to you. Do you care to make "friends" with them? Then try, if not then don't bother. I'm happy being me, by myself but I'm a weird hermit person

Gypsy31771 Level 6 Dec 17, 2018
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No,avoid the "Troublemakers",you picked up on something,a vibration,or maybe your gut instinct said NOPE!

Mike1947 Level 7 Dec 11, 2018
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Lmdao vibration!

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RBF (Resting B*&%# Face) it's a real thing. Maybe she's just ugly. You're passing up an opportunity to hang out with the girl that will occupy the weird guy who smells like cabbage so you can get his hot friend's phone number. It's a BFF missed opportunity. #sad

ponderingatheist Level 5 Dec 11, 2018
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Wtf is this? Is this sarcasm, some failed attempt at a joke, or just the ramblings of someone mentally ill?

@Riley not addressed to you is what it is.

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Wow. I would think you would be able to handle this as you take pleasure in gossip. Sucks, doesn't it?

CoastRiderBill Level 7 Dec 10, 2018
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Hahahahaha! Pleasure in gossip when it’s stuck up people trying to rub their so called perfect life in others face to try to make them feel bad about their own life when theirs aren’t so perfect , not good people! Get it right! Wink wink!

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