So, today (December 20) is the International Human Solidarity Day, and I thought it would serve as a fitting occasion for us to say something nice about each another, if nothing else, just to remind us how much we take each other for granted.
I invite everyone to talk, in a genuine non-sarcastic way, about positive attributes that they think are generally more pronounced in the opposite sex or among the transgender/genderfluid community. So, here I go first:
The thing I admire the most about women is their greater ability to show compassion and empathy. It is sometimes frustrating to see the number of men who just don't give a shit about the fate of other human beings or species. I feel we would've been living on a very soulless and merciless planet if it wasn't for women.
I appreciate the same qualities in all people. Genuineness, compassion, honesty...
If we want to be thought of as equals we should, by definition, recognize those traits in everyone and not pigeonhole anyone into what were once considered "gender specific" qualities or identities.
The ability, and willingness to show love. I once dated a young man who absolutely hated his Mother. She had nothing to do with why he hated her, she was just the scape goat. Then I met a man who not only loved his Mother but was kind and considerate to those who could do nothing for him. We have been married for 36 years and I still admire him.
Hmmm...this is a hard one. I feel sometimes my life has been coming in contact with a series of takers. As if I have this sign on my forehead that I can't see, but everyone else sees that states "Go ahead-Take advantage of me." But then, I live in the world of education, and that pretty much sums up that world. Lol.
So, for International Human Solidarity Day, the quality I appreciate most in the opposite gender is their ability to compartmentalize. Letting the noise and distractions go and really being able to focus in has led the world to so much innovation and advancement.
I love the way... men smell, their ability to be all I want when I need to be comforted, their ability to "man handle" objects as if they are a piece of string, their ability to have a completely different perspective on just about anything in life.
I love that they "think" they know nothing about the female anatomy, yet they can stroke a female like a well tuned instrument!
The biggest thing I love about men... they have PARTS I don't, and I love those PARTS! Yummy!
As far as most positive attributes go, I think either sex can exhibit them. What I think is amazing about women, though, is that they can have babies. Not that I want any more babies, but it is amazing. Without women (or men, for that matter), we wouldn't exist... Additionally, I think women in general are emotionally "softer" in a good way, which seems to be a nice complement to most men. Maybe because of less testosterone? I also admire their bodies. Did I mention I admire their bodies?
I admire the fact men have the ability to be stronger (I work out every day and can never attain their muscular level), they can pee standing outside without pissing on their own sneakers (sucks 4 my sneakers), I am attracted to men-scent, body, some set of make believe attributes: eye contact, I lean towards long hair hippie old music fans, jeans, sandals or work boots, a confident walk, smile, sense of humor. It's all ephemeral. Attraction is in "my" head for whatever past life experiences put there. Men also like to build things, I admire that. I wish I was handier with hammer, nails electric saws etc.
I admire men who are philanthropic, giving to causes that benefit our fellow human beings, be it education, eldercare, the homeless, or the sick. Also, volunteerism. This tells me that they are not tribal and care deeply about humanity in general, apart and aside from those people that they are related to or know well. To feel compassion for strangers and feel driven to help them is the very definition of altruism. Aside from that, I cannot really ascribe any specific merit-worthy traits by sex.
What qualities of the opposite sex do I appreciate most?
What I look for most is a gorgeous, intelligent, fascinating, charming, charismatic, young lady in her twenties - with the figure of a goddess and legs that go on for ever - who is so absolutely HOWLING MAD that she would want to hurl herself at a 54-year-old codger who looks like a gremlin.
(And yes, you did say 'in a genuine, non-sarcastic way.' Sorry!)