Was married to a Lutheran for over 20 years. We just didn't talk about it much, thankfully he wasn't much of a church goer and didn't bring it up much. As time went on I became more involved in the atheist community in town and I think that bothered him. As did my calling him out on some of the bs in religion.
I got married at 22 and had always just done what was expected of me and didn't stand up for myself. I had really wanted to get married outside, as nature is more my "religion" but he wouldn't get married unless it was in a church. I told him I was fine if he wanted the kids baptized and to go to Sunday school but that would be his responsibility. Guess who ended up taking them for 4 years? My youngest was extremely shy so I'd have to sit through the stupid lessons.
Not sure I would date a believer....
I just ended a trial reconciliation with my ex-boyfriend who is very "new age" so not all that interested in honesty and reality.
It was difficult that we couldn't share the same spiritual or humanly natural values, since he attributed all kinds of magical powers to crystals and light auras and what-not.
Basically, it is just honesty he can't handle - he wanted some other spiritual entity to absorb all his mis-steps - I wanted him to take responsibility for his own actions, own up to them and consciously make an effort to improve negative behavior. Nope.
I think the two could meld together for the purpose of keeping together, but both parties need to be open to philosophical thought, not just following what some meme says or some new age author.
The two spiritual views did not mesh. Not looking for a relationship, but if I ever did, I would only consider a rational atheist with a warm and honest heart and mind.
Not currently, but my previous / late wife was still religious, though not stridently so. Rural Methodist. My apostasy occurred on her watch, but it was not at all a source of conflict between us.
I have often wondered if this was inherent or had to do with her having bigger fish to fry (she was, after all, in the process of dying, very slowly) but I tend to credit it to our relationship having to do with our mutual respect for each other, and our shared life not being 100% rooted in church. Indeed, toward the end, church was not a factor because she couldn't attend and the fuckers had no use for her as she was not a source of reliable volunteer labor or $$.