is it contradictory to say " yes, i want to explore a potential LTR with you " AND " i intend to date, possibly have sex with, others ". ???
You didn't say so, but I'll assume this is something that came up with a romantic interest (or at least a potential one).
It depends on how you define a relationship, and how you define what you're doing together now. Maybe the other person isn't ready for commitment, or just not sure if the two of you are ready for commitment together. There's also are a sizable portion of the population (5% they say) that openly relate. You have swing, and polyamory, and play party culture, and a couple of other groups that don't practice sexual or relational exclusivity. The conversation you're currently having is far better than cheating, so I give you guys credit for that.
I suggest you have a conversation in which all involved define their terms and establish what's important to them. You may find a happy middle somewhere, or an exciting new project to explore together. Or you may find that what you two want out of life are fundamentally incompatible.
Interesting use of "relationship." One of the greatest all time movies....SAME TIME, NEXT YEAR, Ellen Byrsten, Alan Alda....one week a year, what was a "conference out of town,' turned into an LTR, and even at that one week love ebbed and flowed, the amazing part of the story line, were the changes which occurred in each other lives, and how it effected their own side relationship. I would highly recommend it for a great evening.
Sure. I call that social dating. It's socializing with no commitments to each other.
But when one of the individuals is ready to take the "relationship" to the next step and other is not ready, they are no longer on the same page. Then expect a split.
It’s all about agreement, we all have a position we come from and it’s no more relevant/ irrelevant than any one else’s. As long as everyone involved can handle it , do your thing. We spend to much of our lives trying to live for the expectations of others whether real or perceived.
It is not contradictory if that is what and how the couple agree their long term relationship will proceed. I would want to talk about it from time to time, so both know how the full relationship is going.
I think each relationship should make up their own rules together. It's complicated, and requires some maturity and deep intelligence.
Not contradictory. You are being open and honest with your desires and where your heart is. O commend your attitude and in the past I've been in a similar situation. Most aren't cut out to operate that way. Some are and when you find those that are willing to be there for you, they might just turn out to be a keeper and become your primary relationship.
Well, great question. Because of where we are today, looking for love in very, very strange places, we are all attuned to keep our “options open.” We continue to look because we are uncertain of whom we have found. Yet, if that relationship you speak of moves to a level in which trust has been recognized and that person sees you as a potentially partner, one should set other dalliances aside and focus on the now. IMO
One example I will share...while I was married before my wife passed, I was having a LTR with the wife of the man I worked for, and she was having an affair with me, her boss, and her hubby, and we snuck in a third person now and then, and everyone was finally getting enough.