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I'm one who is completely turned off by the prevalent materialism of the holiday season. I don't generally buy gifts for people at Christmas outside of my boys and my best friend. Everyone else on my list gets trays of candies and baked goods. No one's complained as of yet. 'Tis the season, let the Bakefest commence!

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Yet another aspect in which we are in accord.

Petter Level 8 Jan 4, 2019

I have largely stopped buying stuff for people at Christmas. I still buy a few token gifts for my mom, but only the things that I know that she needs. For example, this year, I bought her some muffin mixes and soup mixes from King Arthur Flour and an Ancestry DNA kit just for fun. But my big gift to her each year is an honorific donation to our family endowment (at my alma mater). I made some similar honorific gifts to people I feel close to as well.

I legitimately cannot keep up with the cost of presents that other people want; it's just too cost-prohibitive. About five years ago, a friend told me what one of her teen kids wanted for Christmas, and it was a costly electronic device, the cost of which exceeded what I planned to spend on presents, sum total.

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When it is within my financial means, I celebrate the season by giving to those in need. The last few years, I have been the one in need. I used to donate to toys for tots, find charities that didn't require religion to receive, donate time where I can, and etc. To me, the season is the perfect time to make others smile. When I can, I try to share with others. I have been helped so often. I it forward as often as I can.


You're more generous than I am. My children do get slightly spoiled at Christmas, and I buy gifts for my boyfriend and my children's father (to be his gifts from the children) and that's it. I don't bake or buy anything for anyone else. Unless I participate in the Secret Santa at work, for which I'll buy one item.

KatMalina Level 4 Dec 27, 2018

You're certainly not alone in feeling this way. As one who was raised by an intelligent and pragmatic mother, I learned early in life that having rewarding friendships was preferable to having lots of stuff, and that no one should ever need to feel obligated to give gifts due to cultural dictates. I enjoyed the holidays because it meant being able to spend more time with friends. It's not that we didn't give and receive gifts, but mostly they were thoughtful ones like books and music. But that was way back in the old hippie days, and things have changed considerably.


Fortunately for me, I get to work on Christmas Eve and Day. I work part-time at a Veterans Home, so I know that my time is being spent helping others instead of the rampant consumerism that Christmas has become. While I do miss out on spending time with family and friends, I can make up for that at other times of the year without the "holiday stress".


What I didn't like about the holidays, not just Christmas, but any holiday, was going to all the work it takes to set everything up in the manner in which we were suppose to "celebrate", yet receiving no thanks or appreciation for the work that I did. It's like everyone around me just got in their box and became robotic. No joy, no enthusiasm, just acting, and certainly no appreciation for anything. Afterward, it was all the cleaning up and restoring things to normal.

So, I will give to you what I wished others would have given to me...

Thank you for the baked goods! Thank you for taking the time and energy it takes to make something from scratch to give to others! I hope you receive the appreciation you deserve, and if not, I appreciate what you do. smile001.gif

linxminx Level 7 Dec 24, 2018

Haha, why thank you! The hustle and bustle of it all got to me, too. Sooo much work goes into meeting all those expectations for one day. And for someone like me, I'm never going to be able to 'wow' someone with a lavish gift on my budget, but I have been known to wow some with my baking skills. Use what you've got, I guess.


Same here, I was turned off by the materialism of the holidays. Happy Winter Solstice.

VnWriter Level 3 Dec 23, 2018

Thank you. Happy Winter Solstice to you!


Would love coconut walnut raisin oatmeal cookies PLEASE WITH CHOCOLATE covered cherries & berries of all sorts


I'm getting baked at this very moment.

Sticks48 Level 9 Dec 23, 2018

Same here. I've baked so many cookies!

Well, they do say variety is the spice of life!


I think homemade gifts like cookies and candies are the best, they take time and effort! ?

Lutherzme Level 8 Dec 23, 2018

Totally agree!

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