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I spent ten years in a Christian cult here in Texas. I have spent the last eight years getting to know myself. I became an Atheist, skeptic, anti-theist and Satanist in the past two years.I am constantly evolving that it's nearly impossible to get into a relationship. I believe this is the only life I am going to get. So I want to enjoy it. I meet men who bore me to death. No social life, hobbies, interest, and not very cultured. the worst part they are very religious or have a lot of supernatural beliefs and want to recruit or convince me. Which make me run for the hills. Does anyone else have this problem? I feel like I meet people with zero compatibility or anything in common.

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Wow.that's a pretty big reversal.awesome

EricCarbone Level 4 Jan 11, 2019

I have run into many recovering Christian cultist women in the last 4 years. They all tell me how hard it is to get the Brainwashing out.
I'm so glad I've been an atheist since age 9.

Remowill Level 7 Jan 11, 2019

I envy you foreal.


I’m curious as to what cult you were a member? Really surprised you claim “satanist” as a title. Satanism is just another sect of the Abrahamic faiths since they share history and the same deities. Highly illogical.

SkotlandSkye Level 8 Jan 11, 2019

I am curious about both of these things as well.

Satan means the Adversary that's it. It is not a sect of Abrahamic religions.


The Potters House Church, The Door, Christian fellowship churches.


Alllll the fucking time. That's just humans for ya.

JurassicT4 Level 6 Jan 11, 2019

Really liked your post, apart from .....Satanist? Really? Satanism is another form of religion. I don't get that.

David1955 Level 7 Jan 11, 2019

I don't have a problem with godless religions. I like Secular Humanism as well.

Satanism is the preservation of the self. Carnality and self love.


Yup same problem here.

Dewayne5068 Level 4 Jan 11, 2019

My suggestion is, move to a part of the country where there are more normal people ie non religious people.

Moravian Level 7 Jan 11, 2019

Yea same...

Cosmicowl_73 Level 6 Jan 11, 2019

Sounds dreadful. There are loads interesting fellas out there: they might not be living in Texas of course. Think if I were wanting to meet a nice bloke I’d head to Scandinavia. Strong minds, very cultured, mostly kind and well educated. Typically not ugly...

OwlInASack Level 7 Jan 11, 2019

Welcome. Enjoy the conversations. Most good people here. Best wishes, you have experienced a lot, much that people shouldn't have to go through. Know you control your thoughts.


You've gone on an incredible journey... once you've done that it's hard to go back to "dull and normal" in a partner. There are times I wish I were into women because most of the men I meet are excruciatingly boring or conservative or just not interested in the world... and it gets worse after 60. Way worse. Unfortunately, I'm not into women as partners so, yup, I'm in a similar stuck place.

Are these religious guys latching onto you or are you meeting them somewhere?

PalacinkyPDX Level 8 Jan 11, 2019

Online dating and one I met at a gas station.

wow.cool.you took a chance.peace dear.be safe


Maybe your looking in the wrong places

Jk1960 Level 6 Jan 11, 2019

You mean - like America? smile001.gif

Where are the right places?

@LogicEve An old (older) some kind of friend of mine who constantly ran around on his wife, always told me: "Tom if you want to find a woman, go to church. That's where the women are" . Pretty laughable since my friend Woody (True name!) never set foot in a church.
When I tried dating sites, women were constantly looking for a Christian man. I'd ask why don't you try church? They'd say: "There are no single men there!"

Bars? Kind of like high school full of older folks.

So where is the right place? Believe it or not, as a roofer, I've met a few through roofing jobs. Including the mother of my children. Work and love aren't supposed to commingle in this age, so i can't LEGALLY recommend taking an interest in someone at your job.

I think what bothers me is lost opportunity....How many times have I walked away from a casual encounter thinking: "Why didn't I relax and linger? She didn't seem to be in a hurry. She was nice."

I don't know if it's a place really. It's an attitude isn't it?

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