Have to start making huge changes in my life from today. Physically, mentally and emotionally i have left myself drained. My views of this world have become skewed and it has deeply affected my personal life. Long road back
I went through that when "such a fine man" hubby of 33 years left me for an MILF porn star....took about a year to trust even myself again! Make NO commitments and minimal (ideally no) changes!!!
You are Not yourself right now! And get a counselor that will help you connect to reality again, not just one that listens & nods!
Reflect on your values. (the things that are important to you, that is the characteristics you believe it is important to have, eg showing love and appreciation of others, being healthy, having a fulfilling life etc etc.
if you pick 5 values, some will already be your strengths. Pick one that you want to work on. Set short and long term goals. And every day do something that is working toward that goal and in line with that value.
Good luck my friend.
I am ok, delicate at the minute i guess. I got lost, felt so very sorry for myself even though i have no reason to. Im not usually a selfish person but i became that way, the world and all the negativity was crushing me and while i have been fighting i have missed being there for people i love when they needed me. I don't know i just need to put others first again and show people close to me i am worth their trouble.
don't forget your intellectual health as well. introspection, find something that strikes your fancy, and feed your head.
good luck with finding your footing.
there is a mental health support group here if you need to vent a full dissertation of your disposition.