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Women, Would you date a man who has had sex with a transgender woman(shemale)?

By Williamcristiano
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Why would past relationships of any sort be anyone's business? This need to spill your guts is a turnoff, as well as the need to hear about every encounter your significant other ever had..I am an old woman now and thankfully well past it but my advice is to be considerate and wonderful to the woman you are with, (or whomever it may be) and don't' waste time and energy about the past...

dubgal Level 4 Feb 12, 2019
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Yes. Previous sexual experience is a plus.

JenBeberstein Level 7 Feb 12, 2019
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Yes

KissedbySun Level 7 Feb 12, 2019
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1) Why don't you tell us why you're asking this question? Needless to say, there are a LOT of guys who have had or are interested in having sex with trans women... otherwise there wouldn't be trans sex workers and trans-themed porn... of which there are a lot of both. A more apt question is "do you feel shame for having had or wanting sex with a trans woman?"

2) The term "shemale" is a porn term... I'm trans and I find it offensive that it's being used on this site. It doesn't mean the same thing as "transgender woman." I understand you're from Brazil (the country which has the highest number of murdered trans women in the world) and the terminology is different. You're probably thinking about the Brazilian term "travesti" which, from my perspective, is also offensive in this context.

PalacinkyPDX Level 8 Feb 12, 2019
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first it was ladyboy and then it was ladyboy in parentheses with transgender woman before it, and now ladyboy has been replaced by shemale. this poster has got a list i guess, and everything on the list is offensive, and i am sorry that you have to encounter this kind of crap. i'm sorry anyone encounters it and learns from it and thinks it's okay. it's not okay. people are PEOPLE. period.

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I don't think it would matter.

Paracosm Level 7 Feb 12, 2019
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i see you have changed your question. you still include the slurring term though. it is still offensive.

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genessa Level 8 Feb 12, 2019
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I am sorry i don't want be offensive, i will change again

Uh-Oh lookout Davethecave might accuse you of trying to control peoples minds. LOL smile009.gif

@Williamcristiano but you changed it to another slur! are you not aware that these terms you use are slurs? even the question is kind of weird but the words you use are slurs. trans is okay. transgender or transgendered woman is okay. but ladyboy? shemale? these are slurs. do you know only slurs?

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I don't see where this would be different than dating a bi man.

What you really want to know is whether a woman would date a man that has had sex with another man

Lucy_Fehr Level 7 Feb 12, 2019
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Um, no, having sex with a trans woman is not the same as having sex with 'another man.' There's a lot of different types of bodies and presentations involved but, in general, those two are NOT the same.

@PalacinkyPDX if does the transgender has a big boobies and a small and unusable dick?

@PalacinkyPDX I was answering his real question which was basically would I date a guy that had had sex with someone that had a penis.

I didn't give the question any further thought than that so apologize for the lack of sensitivity in my response.

@PalacinkyPDX I dated a trans woman many years ago undergoing hormone therapy.

I'm really not as ignorant or unsympathetic as this thread makes me appear lol

Everyone around here and on facebook knows who and how I am so I often forget that I need to be more specific about what I mean and perhaps less off the cuff

@Lucy_Fehr There is so much truly fucked up stuff posted about trans people on this site (including by some of the people who ended up on this thread), believe me, I wouldn't presume to judge you nor think you insensitive. From what I see on here, my bar is aimed reeeal low. smile009.gif

@Williamcristiano I'm trying to give you the benefit of the doubt because of language/cultural differences but, increasingly, you're just coming off as another very creepy guy who's doing this thread to get off and not to share opinions or gain understanding.

@PalacinkyPDX It appears that I have missed most of it fortunately.

Actually I miss a lot of stuff that I see people making references to elsewhere

@Lucy_Fehr I understand you speaking to his level of sexism-

@Skeezwazzle Thank you

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How would they know? The majority of humans are not exclusively homo or hetero. Most don't act upon these natural feelings. But most do fantasize.

Jacar Level 7 Feb 12, 2019
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You answer probably would’ve been better received if you hadn’t used the term “ladyboy” which is more of a Filipino term so now I have to question why you chose that exact term?

48thRonin Level 8 Feb 12, 2019
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I saw it term in a porn site.

I honestly thought the post was questioning an effeminate man.

To be fair, i wanted to ask for clarity. Words mean something.

@Lillyfield41 Usually ladyboy is used to describe transvestites/ cross dressers in places like Bangkok or other south east Asian locations

@Williamcristiano Well either way I wouldn’t lead with that but if you did you did and it really shouldn’t matter to other people as long as you used protection and aren’t engaging in a long term swing thing.

And honestly I think that your question actually put some “ liberals “ on the spot in the sense that they’re supposedly all about non discrimination towards other people’s sexuality or sexual identity.

So good job 👍🏼

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Why not...it doesnt matter🙂

erlie03 Level 6 Feb 12, 2019
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Sounds like you may be a a freak in the sheets!

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As long as their honest about it and don’t lie about it

Lllewis Level 4 Feb 12, 2019
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Might be better to lie ....esp after the fact....I'm just s as young I've seen wrecked bvrelationships over less.

@Davethecave true but if you lie it could be worse

@Lllewis probably it will be worse no matter what you say.

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I don't see why not. I identify as pansexual and I really don't care whom other people have sex with as long as they are consenting adults.

graceylou Level 8 Feb 12, 2019
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Why, what was her/his name? smile009.gif

godef Level 7 Feb 12, 2019
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I don't know but I certainly wouldn't with a man who uses derogatory terms for people he doesn't understand.

mzbehavin Level 7 Feb 12, 2019
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It's the common term in Thailand.

@maturin1919 Could be but that doesn't negate my post. Also, he's not from Thailand.

@mzbehavin Not could be, is. It's quite popular there, and one not need be from a place to use its nomenclature.

@maturin1919 Sure, you can use faggot, dike and butch too but I still get to dismiss you for it.

Theres one person on every post who thinks they can control people's thoughts. Your it.

@Davethecave (you're)

@mzbehavin 5o bucks says I could follow you around this site making lame ass typo errors all day. Seems like a boring way to spend time tho, don't tag me unless you can think of something to say.

@Davethecave lol... oh, and I'll take my $50 in 5's please. Thx!

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@mzbehavin last sub teacher who kept fucking with me with her bird brain husband flipped out on me. And she caught all meek when I caught a grammar error, lady you need to get bn laid or something. I'll buy you a sex toy at walmart so you'll lighten up....your being nuts it's easier to block u because it's boring pointless conversation

@Davethecave Poor thing. It's just terrible when you can't have your way.

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Finally, this question was the elephant in the laundromat for all the singles.

Davethecave Level 7 Feb 12, 2019
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i've seen elephants and been to laundromats; but, i don't understand the question.

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@Lillyfield41 well ok then. I gotta stare out the window some more then. Have a good afternoon.

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i scrolled down and saw another respondent's definition, "chicks with dicks." so a ladyboy might refer to a trans woman? those are not called ladyboys. those are called women.

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genessa Level 8 Feb 12, 2019
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someone else responded to me too. 1- chicks with dicks. (a hermaphrodite?) and 2- transvestite (crossdresser?) these are two different things. and i still don't know what a ladyboy is. nor do i think i would rule out dating someone that i connect with for either of these reasons. i'm not sure what the question is about.

@Lillyfield41 for example, if you discover that your boyfriend sometime has had sex with a transgender woman with a dick. Would you accept him?

It's not really a slur in the cultures in which it is used - predominantly S.E Asia. It is how these people refer to themselves.

@John_Tyrrell right now we're not in those cultures. this question was asked here on this site, in english, and i think it is a slur.

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@Lillyfield41 "Ladyboy" is a term used in Thailand to refer to trans/gender variant sex workers. (it's a translation from another Thai word called 'Katoey"... which is used to refer both to very femme gay men, cross dressers and trans women. It IS a slur in Thailand. It's overhwhelmingly how this population is known by and marketed to foreigners. They tend to use other terms to refer to themselves. Trans women in Thailand also use the term "Sao Profet Song" (which means "woman of the second type." ). How this 'gentleman' seems to be using it is similar to "Shemale, Chicks with Dicks, or Newhalf (the Japanese term for this) which are all sex industry terms frequently used in porn.

For a more honest view of a Thai trans woman... here's one talking about herself (and yes, there was a lot of criticism of this YouTube channel using the term "Ladyboy" ):

And no, even though she thinks growing up around women might have influenced her growing up as trans, I can assure you there are PLENTY of trans women who grew up with dads in 'normal' households.

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@genessa I've heard it used frequently here in Florida by the younger crowd

@Lucy_Fehr then the young crowd there needs to learn something about respecting other human beings.

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@Lucy_Fehr When you say 'younger crowd' do you mean younger crowd of trans people or younger cisgender people? The term ladyboy is used a LOT on the Internet and on YouTube and I suspect that's where they're getting it from. There are similar Internet-spawned terms like "Trap" (which is also considered highly insulting in the trans community). All these terms get thrown around and used whether most trans people like it or not.

@Williamcristiano a prostitute? Or is the penis what you are getting at???

I'm getting out of this conversation. It's ridiculous.

@Lillyfield41 i gave up to explain to you...

@PalacinkyPDX Good question but I should have specified young men that cross dress.

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I phrased it that way because not all cross dressers are trans

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@genessa I heard it being used at pride fest. I think they can use term as they wish.

@Lucy_Fehr I don't know enough who these persons you're talking about are... if they're just gay men dressed up for the day, people who do drag as a real lifestyle or someone else. A lot of them tend to use stuff they've heard on RuPaul's Drag Race... which is an often problematic program in the trans community. They have, in past, used terms like 'shemale' even though that term is not about gay men or drag queens (and got a lot of shit for doing it). It's my understanding they also use 'ladyboy' on the show. It's true, the term in Thailand can mean 'femme gay men' (among other things)... so that's a overlap between communities. But if they're throwing it around in a wider context including trans women then, no, I don't think it's cool.

@Lucy_Fehr i think THEY can but not US. would we refer to a black person with the n word just because some black people do, to each other? i wouldn't! this does not justify the use of ladyboy here. and i see the poster has changed it once again to the also-offensive shemale. does this person not GET it?

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@Williamcristiano If one was honest, you're talking about being pansexual- Identify as such and be honest, so you have no rub with "whatever you're calling each other".

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what's a ladyboy? is this some new term for a gay guy? it sounds both sexist and homophobic (of course homophobia IS sexist anyway).

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genessa Level 8 Feb 12, 2019
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[urbandictionary.com]

@celticagent so either the question is very narrow and assumes everyone's been to southeast asia, or it's a slur against trans women.

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@celticagent the term as defined in urban dictionary is transsexual prostitutes. @williamcristiano, are you asking if i as a woman would date a transgender woman or a transsexual prostitute?

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@Lillyfield41 i asked if women would date with a man whose had sex with a transgender woman, shemale, ladyboy, travestite.

@Lillyfield41 I'm going to take a stab and suspect it's all the same to him.

@PalacinkyPDX yeah, i'm over this whole thread.

@Lillyfield41 I share your disgust! smile009.gif

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No .

Pralina1 Level 8 Feb 12, 2019
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Would a man date a woman who has had sex with another woman? Wouldn't bother me, didn't bother me.

Surfpirate Level 8 Feb 12, 2019
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What's a ladyboy??

Lillyfield41 Level 7 Feb 12, 2019
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Chicks with dicks.

Transvestite

[urbandictionary.com]

I mean, you probably could make a pretty solid guess at it.

@maturin1919 i didnt want to guess why this question was directed to women. Also the question has now been edited to define transgender. I didnt want to guess the intent when i inferred it to be offensive. I wanted to request clarification.

@Lillyfield41 Technically, I believe ladyboys are transvestites rather than pre-op transgender women.

@Lillyfield41 i don't want be offensive, it is a hard question, and unfortunately some people can be confuse.

@maturin1919 im getting out of this conversation. The original poster asked me directly if i found out my boyfriend fucked a woman with a dick was his intention. The word refers to prostitutes. I did not know the term before this conversation. It is being used in a derogatory way . ugh. Im just getting out of this conversation.

@Lillyfield41 Ladyboys aren't necessarily prostitutes. What they are is crossdressers.

@maturin1919 No, that's not true. The term "ladyboy" (translated from katoey in Thai) can mean anything from a femme gay man, cross dresser to a trans woman (pre-or-post-op). Yes, it IS specifically a term used towards sex workers and in porn. Thai trans women use other terms to refer to themselves. This term is used a LOT by foreign men who come to Thailand to have sex with this population and tends to get thrown around a lot indiscriminately to all trans women... but it IS a putdown.

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@PalacinkyPDX It's an entire scene in Thailand. They're not necessarily hookers, hence ladyboy bars and the like.

@maturin1919 Bars which identify that way are for foreign guys and they are money for sex.

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No.

ProudMerrie Level 7 Feb 12, 2019
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