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This is why I freak out much more often than I used to, right here. I begged these boys to take out the trash 3+ times each and was told by both that they were “fixing to do it” and that “it will get done”. Doesn’t look like it got done to me. The dishes and the table are an every week thing. They don’t understand how much it messes with my OCD & gives me anxiety, even after I’ve physically cried about it before. I started my new job this week and can’t pick up after them anymore. I don’t know what to do. Our lease doesn’t end until December and these guys are two good friends and do help me out with other things at times, but I can’t take it anymore. Have you ever had this messy of roommates? How did you get them to finally pick up after themselves? I’ve tried every angle I know. The last picture I discovered this morning!

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Clean up the mess and give them a bill.

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An update: came home to the trash being in a bag beside the trash can and a new one in it. However, the sink is even more full and this is happening. I noticed the water sinking slower in the kitchen and bathroom sink as well as the tub. I stick my finger in there being curious and is that fucking food? Oh hell no! I have a hunch why that’s happening! 🙃

I cannot tolerate the kids dumping food in the sink. Never could. You dump it in. You clean it out is the rule here. They learn fast that way. But they're gkids. Don't know about roommates.
Maybe you could sic the landlord on them? When you are gone for a weekend.

@freeofgod oh I already got a low income housing application! Been putting up with this for far too long!

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I don't know who signed the lease but you say that two of you signed the lease and then your roommate allowed his friend to move in also. To me that sounds like he broke the agreement. Is the new guy chipping in on the rent? Let him take over your obligation and get out. If they are really friends you should be able to work it out.

gearl Level 7 July 12, 2019

We have four bedrooms so we needed a roommate. He just didn’t ask me about it first... but we do split all the bills.

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Stick it in their pillowcase. That's the quickest way.

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Time for eviction. They are taking advantage of the fact that need you needed assistance at one time and they offered to assist. That doesn't give them right to abuse their privileges.

Take the trash and put on the boys bed. Take the dirty dishes and put them in their bed.

t1nick Level 8 July 11, 2019
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This is simply unacceptable. Personally I like to keep things clean and organised and if I had roommates I would expect the same from them otherwise it will make my life disgusting !

Prashant Level 5 July 11, 2019

I feel disgusting even having people over!

@1EarthLovingGal I am sure you do 😅

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My roommates during my senior year in college were slobs. I finally blocked off the door to my room with a board so the ferret couldn’t get in and kept my door shut most all the time. I let them trash the rest of the house and live in filth as they saw fit. My room was clean, and that’s what mattered to me. Fortunately, I was working at a restaurant at the time so I didn’t even need to use the kitchen, which as you can imagine was a petri dish for the creation of new forms of deadly bacteria.

webbew1 Level 7 July 11, 2019

I have to use the kitchen but I rarely do because I eat a lot at my mom’s and with my grandparents.

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Move out asap or find better roommates!!!
That mess is unacceptable.

Hastur Level 7 July 11, 2019
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I had a roommate like this and I tried to clean it up, work with them on boundaries, assign responsibilities, hire someone else, etc. Nothing works if they don't care. I moved.

Paracosm Level 8 July 11, 2019
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I live with clutter but that is filth. Gross. I'd be looking for other roommates. With references.

freeofgod Level 8 July 11, 2019
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This is way over the top. I was their age when I lived with two other guys and it was never this bad. Stop cleaning up after them if you are. Become worse than them if possible.

ToolGuy Level 8 July 11, 2019

It bothers me so much to not have it clean and embarrassed me when I want people over. However, I guess I’m just going to have to do it.

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Roommates are a pain in the ass. It looks like their mommies did everything for them growing up and they never had to learn to do for themselves. Keep in mind as well that being roommates with friends is an excellent way to lose friends I suggest you might want to find a better situation for yourself because this can adversely affect your studies as well as causing you mental issues. Some people never grow up and many of those people are mired in the paternalistic culture...

Yeah, I only moved in with him to get away from my parents mental abuse and got stuck in a two year lease. The other one is a newer roommate because the other one told him he could move in without asking me.

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It seems as though they got used to you cleaning up after them... I couldn't ever live like that... My advice, leave the mess alone for a few days, keep your room clean... And especially, don't wash their dishes... They might get the point when they want to cook and the dishes are still dirty... Or put all that garbage in their rooms...

I told them I was going to do the dishes until I saw the trash was still not taken out. I put together a small trash can in my room so I don’t have to worry about sticking it on the waste!

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If you have to clean after them, then charge $.
This is disgusting. It would drive anyone insane.

Zoohome Level 7 July 11, 2019

I haven’t even gone home since I left at noon because of how dirty it is and how it stresses me out so much

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I’m afraid there’s not much that’ll get a guys act together if they’re fine with living like that. My offer of needing a roommate here still stands lol but beyond that, good luck :/

Wurlitzer Level 8 July 11, 2019
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Personally I live as bad if not worse. BUT it's just me and my dog here now. When I had the kids living at home I didnt let it get this way. Not sure how you address it with adult kids. I think I would charge them money if I had to clean things. Not sure though ... I'd probably just give in and let them do whatever. We're only here once and it's not worth it to fight. I'm a pushover I guess.

JeffMesser Level 7 July 11, 2019

I’m a pushover too but it’s starting to effect me mentally so I have to do something.

@1EarthLovingGal I can understand that. it's hard being a parent.

@JeffMesser if only they were my kids. Would make more sense that way!

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How about you and the boys sit down together and, on a sheet of paper, divide up the chores. Write down the chore and write down a time limit when it needs to be completed. Write down a name of who is to do the task. Each week you all can agree to rotate the chores so it is perfectly fair. Post the chore list/schedule on the 'fridge or other community space.

dare2dream Level 7 July 11, 2019

I already know they wouldn’t follow it or I would. Not even worth trying.

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Either kick them out or move. That is gross

GreatNani Level 8 July 11, 2019

It is gross! It would cost way too much for me but I will look into moving out.

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Move out and leave them to wallow in their shit - and pay the bills for the clean up

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Yeah but mine are my sons! Its not nice. Sit them down and get a big piece of paper and get them to agree a plan. Get them to sign it.

Amisja Level 8 July 11, 2019
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Make them pitch in for someone to come in and clean once per week?

Ones already having trouble with finances, the other just got a car.

@1EarthLovingGal maybe go the passive-aggressive route, then...dump all the shit on their beds.

@1EarthLovingGal I submit that the one who just got a car is going to have trouble with finances soon as well. Is it possible for you to get out of your part of the lease earlier and leave them with the problems they are creating?... If not they are going to take you down with them...

@Lizard_of_Ahaz I assume that too and we both begged him not to get it. Also got a kitten that I basically have to take care of because he barely spends time with it. I think I can ask to have mine removed since we’re both on it but I’ll have to ask.

@1EarthLovingGal If you need help with that let me know...

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How old are your boys? Take away their phones and privileges.

They’re my roommates!!!! So both 23!

@1EarthLovingGal

Kick them out immediately.

@LiterateHiker i totaly agree with you!!

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