Unwanted Valentine’s Day Flowers? Any advice on how to handle communication (if any at all) regarding flowers from an ex, left at my door, after repeated pleas by me, over several weeks, to leave me alone?
My ex-boyfriend continues to leave things at my door, trying to seem thoughtful or helpful. It’s actually more stress than anything else for me to find these surprises, or to get a text to look on my doorstep because there’s something there that is perishable, or contains cash or cash cards. He knows I don’t want to see him, so he just drops things off, presumably trying to wear me down.
For a while, I would angrily text him that I didn’t want anything from him and drop the items back off at his place, at my earliest convenience.
I don’t need cash or food, and he knows I never accept these things, so it simply generates a bunch of texts and a visit from me to drop the stuff back to him. I don’t want to be bothered by doing that... I just want him to leave me alone.
My instinct is to just ignore - I did bring the flowers in - but did not thank him by text, as I might have when we were together. I feel that by sending a text saying “Thanks for the flowers” he might feel encouraged. I very much want to discourage him and just get back to my life without him interfering in it whatsoever.
It’s not in my nature to be rude and not acknowledge the flowers, but I’ve repeatedly asked him to stop bringing me things. I think I’m happy simply not acknowledging them in this case, to prove I really do just want him to move on and leave me alone.
What would you do in a similar situation? Ignore, or thank him?